3 Red Flags Of A Roommate Who Will Have Sex In Your Room.

So you won’t go through the same thing.

Here’s what this post is about: trusting your intuition so you’re less hurt when it’s proven right.

Let me explain. I had three roommates during my freshman year of college. We were crammed into a quad because we barely got on the main campus at my university and they usually give the late-comers all the leftover rooms.

As soon as we got our roommate assignments in August before the school year started, we made a group chat. A brave one (a little too brave) made a text group chat and a Snapchat group chat within a matter of seconds upon receiving the roommate assignment. The first roommate — let’s just call her redhead — began texting up a storm in the group chat. I automatically muted it. While the other roommate — let’s call her blonde — talked but didn’t make as much noise as the redhead.

Redflag 1: An overly talkative roommate who texts nonstop every two seconds, seems like a roommate who craves attention.

Summer’s over and it’s finally move-in day. I met the blonde and the redhead. I made sure to move in early to get a good space in the room; a bottom bunk, a bed, a good desk, and closet space. Here comes the redhead again. Being annoying asking to do one million activities together and bond like roomies do as usual. I turned everything down.

Fast forward to Thanksgiving break and I go home. The redhead stayed in her dorm the whole time because she lives twenty minutes away (what’s the point of staying in a dorm room if you live twenty minutes away?). While the blonde ventured to her hometown of Michigan. The redhead asked me and the blonde is she could have her boyfriend stay over the break and I said yes, being the nice unconfrontational junebug I am.

I come back to the dorm after Thanksgiving break. Only to walk in a find someone’s jacket on my chair, crap hovering over my side of the room, and someone using my IPad charger. I’m livid. But being that unconfrontational junebug I am, I didn’t cuss her out in the moment. I just called my sister in anger for an hour when they left for food. Then I banged on the RA’s door. She wasn’t there so I DM’d her in the floor GroupMe and asked her to talk to the redhead for me.

Redflag 2: A roommate who doesn’t understand the importance of privacy, doesn’t seem like a roommate who has much common sense.

The redhead always got mad about affirmative action for some reason. Now stay with me. She’d brag about how she got into IVY league colleges like Yale — but didn’t accept her enrollment. Meanwhile, she’d throw a hissy fit about not going to this university for free (which isn’t an IVY league). Confusing right?

She’d also brag about how she was this huge advocate for Black Lives Matter, gave a speech for Hillary Clinton’s campaign, and did a Ted Talk on politics. I get bitter liberal vibes from her (and I’m a liberal). She has the nerve to cape for Black lives but gets made when a black person gets into college for free. Not to mention the disrespect she showed to the 6% of black kids on campus, including me.

Redflag 3: If a roommate has a stank attitude towards something put in place to help students who look like you. They’re probably not a good roommate to be around.

Here’s the sex part.

I went home — a regular weekend. The blonde and the redhead stayed together in the room. Next thing you know, the redhead brings a random stranger in the room and starts having sex. They banged the top bunk of the blonde who tried immensely to ignore it and sleep.

It was too much.

The blonde stormed out the room in her robe and slept at her friend’s dorm for the night. I came back from my weekend vacation, oblivious of what had happened a couple days ago.

During that same week, I went to class and repeated my normal schedule. Next thing I know, the redhead’s stuff is completely gone. Not a trace of her is left in the room. She moved out unexpectedly and sent us a short goodbye text in the group chat.

We rejoiced; We screamed from the mountain tops.

Sure, other drama happened after that and let’s just say it led to some Snap Chat blocking, but me and the blonde didn’t care. We got out of a toxic environment and the person causing it just left.

Final Thought

The main takeaway of this post is to trust your intuition no matter what. Especially if they show some red flags like the ones above.

I knew from the beginning that the redhead would do something crazy like this while the blonde tried her best to make friends with her because of the nice person she is.

This isn’t to say it’s the blonde’s fault for going through that experience. I was expecting something wild but not like that.

Honestly, just watch out for roommates who seem suspicious. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re a bad person for expecting the worst in someone. They already show you who they are enough.