3 Reasons Why You Should Invest Into Getting A Coach and a Therapist
Based on lessons from a well-being coach’s perspective who has a therapist
1 in 4 people in the USA now suffer from some sort of mental health issue and the solopreneur way of life is rocketing. Not to mention, the self-improvement market is worth $10 billion (and growing).
We are experiencing a personal development addiction.
From life coaches to business coaches, all sorts of support have sprouted from the need to nurture mind and body during trivial times.
Have you also considered seeking professional help recently, either for mental health or business building? I’m positive we all need one. Outlined are the 2 reasons we all need a therapist or coach:
Side note: I have been a wellness coach for a year; everlearning through my clients. Furthermore, I’ve seen a coach for the first time this year (didn’t ever think I needed one!) and I feel more confident than ever.
The first reason behind seeking out support systems is that:
We want to feel empowered
“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” — Steve Maraboli
When someone says this to you, you believe it, right?
That’s because we all have an innate desire to improve ourselves. If someone can strive this urge to self-improve, then we are going to believe them.
Sometimes it takes only a few words to spark confidence within.
That’s why you’re reading right now — you want to learn a lesson and become more aware and attuned to your needs.
Empowerment comes from within, but others can spur it on.
For example, I feel empowered whenever I’ve spoken to my coach because she instils hope, belief, and confidence within me. I feel more determined than ever to make my dreams come true after being with her. However, I have to keep nurturing my needs and concentrate on my goals if I want to feel empowered for longer.
I have noticed this with clients in wellness coaching, too. I am by their side, but when we stop, it is up to them to carry on. I am merely providing the tools to reach further in their toolbox of self-assertion.
So if the work needs to happen within, then surely we don’t need someone to tell us our worth to help? As Beyonce says:
“Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.”
There’s a key difference between someone telling you and asking the right questions so you say it yourself. You believe it.
See — that’s why we might all need someone’s guidance. Coaches ask the right questions so you can tell them your worth — they just help you see the light. Therapists do the same, but with more vigour to also aid in answering the questions and bringing up topics to deliberate over.
Once they’ve led you here, you can work on self-empowerment:
“Self empowerment is seeking the solution rather than fixating on the problem.” — Coach Bobbi
When you surround yourself with people that empower you, you will start to believe in your strength. Want to feel empowered? Seek out coaches help.
Once we feel empowered, success is around the corner, right? Success is what drives most of us these days in the writing world, let’s not deny it. Michael Leonard even says:
“Hire a coach for 1:1 or group coaching to speed up success.”
We all need someone to push us because it’s hard to commit to goals, work, relationships, social standards and life all at once. So my second lesson is:
We want to be heard and understood
A psychotherapist who had lost her husband to cancer, says therapy didn’t ease her grief. She says:
I believe that navigating the internal world, accompanied by a therapist, may be the only way for some people to deeply understand themselves.
Therapists are there to listen; something we all want and cannot completely access all the time because people have their worries and troubles to care about. Someone who doesn’t know you, as a therapist, allows you to open up on every level like you wouldn’t with people you know.
Therefore, a therapist allows you to understand what is stored deep within and how to win. Whereas, a coach is there to listen and guide you in the right direction onwards and upwards.
Therapists listen with no pre-judgment and this is why we need therapists as much as coaches. Both their services offer an open ear to take away the fear.
My service in coaching is to listen to their needs and know what they want right from the beginning so I can adjust accordingly to the reason behind them seeking out a coach. I set goals suited to their needs and together we make it happen.
When it comes to therapy, I know my best friend suffering from depression, has learnt so much about herself recently by seeing her therapist. He asks the right questions and then tells her why she’s feeling the way she is. Pretty amazing if you think about it.
It’s the anonymity and comfort found in the stranger to therapist relationship encounter that can show you ways to understand yourself in ways you wouldn’t have expected.
Your feelings aren’t to be dealt with alone
“Your feelings are not yours to bear alone. You don’t have to feel embarrassed, weak, or ashamed about your feelings. You can set down the heavy load of your feelings by talking to a professional, a therapist, a coach, a colleague or a friend. Share with the people you trust and who are close to you.” — Vishnu*s Virtues
As Vishnu*s Virtues profoundly puts it, we all need someone to talk to. Be it a professional or a partner, there has to be some sort of sharing of your emotions.
If you don’t open up to your emotions with the help of someone else then things will only get worse.
Luckily, I have a tight supportive system, so when I went to the mental clinic due to mental health issues, I knew I had the reliance of my family and friends. I opened up to them and told them how I felt so that I could process my emotions more.
I’ve never had a therapist until the past month and it’s just a time to set aside to talk. It’s like talking therapy. Whereas with a coach, it is much more interactive and the coach guides you through your emotions to reach goals that you have set for the future.
How do you feel when you hide everything and try to deal with it alone or even suppress it? Worse, right? Well, it is only going to get worse until you admit to your feeling, find the root cause (with someone else by your side), and deal with it.
Coaching and therapy are both sound ways to deal with emotions and open up. Remember you can’t do it alone, so be as open as you can about getting support from the outside to heal.
In conclusion
As a well-being life coach, I now understand why we all need a therapist and coach. I actually did a live Instagram with a girl who had both a therapist and coach and benefited wonderful amounts from having them at the same time.
The therapist was for digging deep into her past and the coach was there to push her into the future with hope and confidence.
Beforehand, I was quite a sceptic about the rise in coaches etc. but now I get it. Simply put, we are suffering from society’s pressure and strive to be better.
No matter who you are, we all need to be listened to, loved and led on with empowerment.
It’s OK if we all need a support system out of friends and family, it doesn’t make us less weak; it makes us human.
We all aspire to be like someone else. Start aspiring to be like yourself by seeking out the help of a coach or therapist.
“Trust yourself. There is no one else on earth that is better suited to determining your ideal and making it happen than you.” — S.D. Buffington
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