3 Reasons Why Indecision Slowly Kills Your Success And How To Fix It

Not to make a decision is also a decision.

Have you ever wondered whether there was a skill you could aquire to quickly fix certain areas in your life?

Things that you have thought about changing for a longer time, but you just didn’t yet? And do you sometimes ask yourself why you have just not taken any action yet and why the days are passing so quickly?

What you’re going to read now could also be applied on your dating life, your job situation or other parts of your life that you’re not happy with and that you want to change.

About a year ago…

I was 23 years old and had found myself in an unsexy living situation. I had an apartment in the center of Vienna, Austria, which I didn’t really like, in an area I didn’t really like, which cost about 2/3 of my monthly income, guess what.

I hated this circumstance.

Needless to say, with all the additional monthly costs there was almost no money that I kept for myself.

How you do one thing, is how you do everything — Harv Eker

Slowly but surely…

…it began to negatively affect my other life areas because not being able to travel and buy things that I wanted to have, lowered my self-esteem. In my mind, I just couldn’t see any quick way out, because my financial situation wasn’t good. I even had debt to pay.

Although I had been talking to countless friends and asking for their advice, they all told me the same:

To move into a smaller apartment or a shared flat to cut down half of the living costs I was having at the time.

It sounded so simple and I even had this decision in mind quite often before, but my indecision just wouldn’t let me think of a way to do it.

Ego can be a limiting factor

Looking back, I’m sure that my ego kept me from taking action:

Because getting this apartment took me a lot of work and I thought living central was a good thing, which is probably why I subconsciously didn’t want to lose it.

I imagined all my friends and relatives say:

“You’ve come so far, you are living in a dream spot now, where every important corner of the city can be arrived within 10 minutes, and all you do now is give it up again after a year?”

So for like three months I procrastinated on this and continued to struggle financially because I just wouldn’t decide what to do about that issue.

Which brings me to the first reason.

1) Loss of precious time

Three months is a long time to endure on something that you’re not happy with and which should be changed anyway on the long run.

Can you imagine, on how many great experiences you miss out in three months if you let yourself be navigated by a negative circumstance that shouts “CHANGE ME”?

I can tell you, sheer too many! Time is the most valuable asset you probably have, especially when you’re young. And yes I know, this sounds like an empty phrase that you hear all the time. But doesn’t that reflect the truth? We only have one life, and when we’re burried, it’s over. So why not fill it with memorable experiences and let go of things that keep us from doing so?

I could have saved a lot of money if I had left this apartment earlier, so that I might have been able to fulfill several dreams earlier, like skydiving.

If you ask me about it today, I’d say that I could have gotten out of this accomodation and found a less expensive one much earlier. That would have saved me energy and time too.

But as human beings we are often attached emotionally to things. As I told you, it was hard work to get this very central flat. So my mind came up with enough reasons to let it be and just stay there, even though I wasn’t happy.

Ignore the comfort:

You have to ignore those inner voices.

Don’t let your comfortable thoughts dominate you.

I’m also not saying: “Change all your circumstances immediately, if you have a sad day once.” — But if, over several weeks, you feel like there’s something wrong and you know the actual reason that keeps you from getting ahead, then start changing it.

In the end that’s worth much more than staying stuck and losing more time and energy to something which doesn’t clearly fulfill you.

2) It’s not going to get better without taking action

Your situation will not just magically turn into a more advantageous one by itself.

Nobody’s going to come and help you, if you don’t ask for that.

No real estate agent is coming and inviting you to have a look at their great apartment they sell — in fact, if one does, he or she might not have the best offer, because it should be the other way round.

And there is no “change for the better”-fairy who is going to come and touch you with her magic wand.

So if you’re like me back in those days and just sitting there, not taking any action, hoping it will somehow get different, please do yourself a favor and make a decision.

Nothing in our life changes if we don’t change.

Nothing changes if we don’t decide so.

When the financial pain got worse, I finally decided to give it a shot and look for different oportunities, which is how I found my current flat-sharing community.

A year later, I can say, that I am much happier, financially stable and I like this apartment even more.

Right now, I’m living truly at 50% of my living costs I had in those days and can save more money for investments and desires.

I am happy, it’s still very central, I have a metro station within 3 min reach and it won’t take me too long to get out of the town into the green if I want to.

Take Action Today:

What’s the first step you could take today towards a different circumstance?

Huge changes often start with taking one tiny little step.

For me back then it was to decide, I’d go and search for a new flat-sharing community. I had started by checking a facebook group and sent one message to somebody who offered.

The process had started and in the end I had only visited three offering owners of apartments until I found a good fit.

Sometimes solutions are closer than we think. All we need to do is go and take the necessary steps.

3) You’re missing out on something.

Indecision about your situation will lead you to a state where you’ll feel sorry for not taking responsibility earlier, which is then likely to create even more stress in your life and unwillingness to do anything about it.

It’s a negative downspiral. Your self-esteem will suffer. You’ll stay stuck if you don’t take action at some point at least to get things moving.

When I didn’t take action I made a decision though, because:

A decision to not make a decision is a decision.

So when I finally got things moving, as I told you, the pain was very high.

It didn’t have to be this way, but I refused to start changing my situation.

The reason I wasn’t doing anything was because I was unsure about the situation, not determined.

And what comes along with uncertainty? — Indecisiveness!

Decide

Decide you’ll make a change finally. Decide you’ll not let one more day pass until you make a move.

Waiting one day might not be a huge impact.

But most likely that one day turns into several days, because if you don’t decide today then you’ll neither do tomorrow.

Bottom Line

So now you have a an overview of what keeps us from moving and why indecision could kill your success in life silently without you noticing.

You might think now that it won’t have that much of an impact if you procrastinate on making important decisions for your life today.

But the truth is, the one evening that you watched Netflix to keep you distracted, is lost time.

The following day you’ll still think about changing something and the cycle will start again. How much time do you want to lose?

Again: What’s the one thing you can do today, to change your current status?

Now is the time to decide.