3 Reasons to Embrace Your True Self
Because you are a beautiful creature and deserve to be who and what makes you happy.
Most people spend a large portion of their lives molding themselves into what they think the people surrounding them want. They have their second thoughts, but they choose to be accepted over being truly happy.
I’m gonna drop a big ole truth bomb on you.
At the end of the day when we all lay our heads on our pillows, those people you are trying to impress could care less about who you are. They do not care that you whether you are happy or not. They don’t care that you are pretending. They just don’t care at all.
Crazy perspective time.
It’s not their job to care about whether or not you are truly being yourself. This was the hardest pill I ever swallowed when it comes to being happy. I spent years being someone I wasn’t and when my best friend found out, he was shocked. He never asked me to be this other person. He didn’t want that. He preferred the small amounts of my true personality that leaked through when my guard was down. In fact, my parents even noticed a change in me. They knew something was up.
At the end of the day, we can blame people all day long for our own choices. This act will get us nowhere. We must take control of our lives and choose to be happy. And I mean the happiest we have ever been in our whole damn lives!!
It’s simple. We simply embrace who we are. You’re probably like:
Felishia, how do I do that? You can tell us to do it all day long, but it’s different actually doing it.
I get it! This is a whole mindset shift. You have to retrain your brain and your actions. You have to wake up every day and choose to be what makes you happy.
That’s the simple solution. When you are confused about how to be your true self and unsure of what choice to make, ask yourself if it makes you happy. Chances are if it makes you happy, you’re embracing who you are.
This leads me to the main reason why I decided to write this post, to begin with.
5 Reasons to Embrace Your True Self
- Happiness
I don’t know about everyone else, but constantly being someone that you’re not is exhausting. I ate food that I really didn’t enjoy because someone else liked it. I participated in activities that weren’t fun for me because someone else wanted to. I’ve wasted so much of my time because I feared voicing what I wanted. I was so terrified that people wouldn’t like me or want to do what I wanted to do. It sucks being unhappy doing activities that other people want to do, but you still have those people around you. You don’t have to face the rejection of them not liking you or what you like to do.
Here is the flip side of that rejection. Surprisingly, the people in my life wanted to do what I wanted. It made them uncomfortable always choosing what we did or ate. They could sense that something was up with me. They weren’t dumb. When I started taking back my happiness, it made them happy too. They liked that they were making me happy and that made them happy.
2. Better quality of life
This one ties into the very first reason. When you are sad and down, you don’t really want to take care of yourself and your living space. In those moments, you do whatever you can to just not fall apart. That includes watching TV, snacking constantly, or anything that gives you instant gratification. Being sad is not a productive state of mind.
However, when you are happy, the world is a different place. Your priorities become vastly different. You want to take care of yourself when you are happy. You want to live in a clean space when you are happy. Choosing to be yourself brings a sense of accomplishment. My best days are the ones where I get up early, work out, drink my water and clean my house. This mindset doesn’t exist in the world when I am miserable. It didn’t exist two years ago. I made the choice to take back all that made me happy and feel guilty about none of it.
3. Choosing yourself is powerful
When you choose yourself, you are taking back the power that you had let go of. I remember the feeling of having no control when I was sad. I remember feeling like I had no choice but to wallow in my sadness. It’s an awful feeling and it’s hard to break that habit, as well.
Most people don’t realize the power that is involved in embracing who you really are. You don’t care if others don’t like what you do. You know deep inside of you that it makes you happy and that’s all that matters. When you choose yourself, you gain the power of knowing who is not good for you in life and who is. You learn really quickly who it is that wants you to be happy and who could care less unless it’s benefiting them. I lost friends because of this. It sucked when it happened, but I wouldn’t go back for any amount of money. The power you gain gives you back control of your life. It gives you newfound confidence that you haven’t had in a long time or never had at all.
I know you think you could never get to a place of embracing yourself. Actually, I take that back. You know there is a small part of you that knows that you can do it. It’s that small part of you that keeps you from completely giving up on yourself.
I need you to trust me.
It won’t be easy for a long time. It will be hard and you will falter back and forth, but you can do it. You can have a better quality of life. You can have better friends that love you for you. You are capable of so much. Don’t give up on yourself. I have faith in you and so do the ones who truly love you.
Embrace YOU.
