3 Mindsets That Will Hold You Back on Medium
Learning from failures

“He is not going to show up.”
I said in my heart with almost absolute certainty as he walks away.
I’ve seen this quite too often — more from myself than anyone else. It is one of those habits that forces you not to take yourself seriously.
When we look at indiscipline, on the surface, we may just think it's all about not doing what you made a commitment to do. But in truth, it is more than that. The more we act undisciplined, the more we disappoint ourselves. And if we continue to disappoint ourselves consistently, we subconsciously stop taking ourselves seriously. We lack trust and confidence in ourselves.
Wonder where lack of self-confidence and self-worth stems from?
When this brother walked up to me, after a choir performance he felt motivated to be part of us. Noticing the same thing that I have often noticed about myself, where I am pumped up at a new prospect or opportunity, but it disappears once the moment or the emotion starts to wane, I recognized it in him as well.
And indeed, it was just as I thought. A month has gone by now, and he never showed up, not once.
I’ve often said the best people to learn from, are failures. Successful people can inspire us, but failures, that shit scares the hell out of us.
As humans, we learn more from failing than we do from winning.
To learn more about people, you have to learn more about yourself. We are all very similar — more similar than we would like to admit. The more I focused on myself and began studying myself, I slowly began to recognize the same flaws and strengths in others.
It is from this close study of self and others, that I have picked three main mindsets that I've come to realize hinder most people from becoming as successful as they wish to be.
Do you underplay the complexities of things?
You will not believe the energy and anticipation I had starting on Medium — it was like I was going to take the platform by storm.
I’m sure obviously by now, you know that hasn't happened, and it's very unlikely to happen.
I was introduced by a friend, and seeing how Medium was set up, it looked just so easy. I thought to myself, it's only to just write and then get paid? How easy can it get?
Three months in, I am yet to make my first $100. Though my earning doubles every month, it wasn’t what I expected. If I’m being honest, I hoped to be making at least half a thousand dollars.
A discouraging thing we often do is downplay the complexities of certain things in life. No matter how the system may seem easy, to begin with, there are certain corners and intricacies that come along with it that we must master first.
We set ourselves up for disappointment and ultimately failure when we have a short expectation or a quick ROI.
Medium may be one of the, if not the simplest means of making money online, but that doesn't mean it is easy.
Do you find it difficult to wait out the storm?
A very valuable piece of advice that I took to heart deeply was from Zulie Rane
Starting on Medium, I made a tonne of research, to get an overall understanding of what the platform is about — the perks, and what there is to know. And that was how I found Zulie’s YouTube channel.
She related her story, acknowledging the fact that though she may have started on the platform before the Medium Partner Program rolled in, she still considers herself to be among the lucky few who got off to a quick rise in finance.
Her first month, she made just over $3, and over $500 her next month.
She advised that that may not be the case for many. In fact, most people on Medium, over 90%, do not make over $100.
Zulie helped me prepare myself, that starting on Medium is stormy. I just have to be patient and wait out the storm. Continue doing what am doing. Keep writing consistently, improve my content, tighten up my titles, use better images and format more properly. Get into good pubs, not necessarily big pubs.
And these tips have been of enormous help to me.
Patience is a much-needed prerequisite to make it in the online world today.
Do you expect quick results?
Since I started writing on Medium, just over three months ago, I have written over a hundred articles. But never have I gotten that vitamin-ous email that every writer hoped to get after they hit publish — curated and chosen for further distribution.
And in all honesty, it doesn't bother me.
It doesn't bother me because coming on this platform I set my expectations very low. What helped me stay humbled and brought my expectations low was listening to the Ayodeji Awosika YouTube video where he talked about a lot of young writers being prone to entitlement. Assuming they’re very good writers, they set their expectations so high, and end up being disappointed.
He said as young writers, especially when you’ve not really been writing, just like I was, you are not good at writing. And we should accept that as the truth.
This helped me stay humble and not expect much. It helped me embrace the need to learn from the onset.
So even though during my fourth month on this platform, I have still not hit the $100 a month mark, I still feel I'm doing pretty well because I’m very close and that exceeds my expectations.
I wasn’t expecting a quick fix, or a quick reward when I came on Medium. I made the decision to do this for the long haul. There are people who got curated thrice after just writing their first five articles, and that helped them get started nicely. Maybe our story is different. But the key is, to keep going and stop thinking about quick and early success.
Final words
There are so many habits that can wreck our chances of making it in life, not just on this platform. But I feel these three stands as the basic — why?
At a closer look, you'll realize that the three points we made, have to do with the mind. And that is where success in life starts.
If we do not have the right mindset and position ourselves rightly, we can easily fall off the wagon.
Having said that, arm yourself with the right mindset, the right thoughts, and align your goals, and expectations accordingly. It comes down to what you’re looking at in the future and how you choose to approach it.
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