3 Invisible Obstacles in Life That Keeps You Stuck in a Beehive

Don’t expect to see change if you never make one.

Have you wondered why you can’t get along with everyone?

Wearing branded clothes, dipped in fragrance oils, and studying at a prestigious university all go into an ashtray. You do everything in your favor to impress friends, but you miss the boat.

Recently, I realized:

What makes us unfit is our ‘knowledge.’ Gliding into social groups is all about gossiping, pulling legs, praising, etc. Wisdom stops us from doing acts we know are off-target.

• The more you’re knowledgeable, the unfit you become for social groups. Why is that?

Because people fear you, they don’t want to be around somebody that gives them invisible chills of low confidence. Plus, empty minds make the most noise.

In short, invisible obstacles affect us and our surroundings in myriad ways. To fight them, we must know what they are. So, below are 3 invisible obstacles that keep you holding aback:

1. Captive of Schrödinger’s Idiot

Schrödinger’s idiot is a phenomenon of smart vs. dumb.

Suppose:

You immediately pulled out an offensive joke to inspire a eschew of your friend circle. A joke about someone’s apparel you saw a week ago at a thrift sale. Though you immediately regret it. Now, you decide to swing it as a joke based on the other person’s response.

This scenario usually happens when people say random things and regret it later.

People trying to land friends or jobs can never risk saying something clueless — take good calls with ease. Schrödinger’s phenomenon creates added problems in the lifestyle.

When Alexander Lebed said: “Think before you speak, and don’t say everything you think.” you were busy playing snake and ladder game.

Accept it: we all have been a product of Schrödinger’s idiot once in our lifetime. Sometimes, we rue when no one comes to rescue us. Then, we drown in embarrassment.

As billionaire Warren Buffett once said, “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.”

If you don’t even have 20 years of reputation on the plate, you’re simply destroying the opportunities you never even started.

This is where the THINK concept by author Alan Redpath comes to the salvage:

• True
• Helpful
• Inspiring
• Necessary
• Kind

2. Thinking you know it all

Richard Jackson says:

“Young people think they know it all, but a lot of old salts around know they don’t.”

I always believed that a human being could never be a master of all subjects. It’s not a renaissance period.

We’re either a doctor, a writer, an engineer, or a chef. Humans, since the 2000s stick to only one profession.

So, in short, there’s always someone much better at what you do — always an expert. Realize that with an expert telling you half of the things you don’t know, you can save some errors and trials, says Davis Tucker.

But only if you do listen.

On top of that, Dunning Kruger Effect (DKE) is a cognitive bias where people overestimate their knowledge or ability in specific areas. It arises because of a lack of self-knowledge and ego.

As a child, we’re always automated to follow others, then why do we stop? We learn to walk, hold food, and show affection — at some point, we counter our natural instincts.

As a Bruce Lee says: “He who knows not, knows not, he knows not, he is a fool shun him.”

No one is born-with-it. To develop a habit as a learner, follow these tips:

• Credit others. Don’t take full acknowledgment
• Don’t be allergic to learn
• Agree often
• Skip the ego-satisfying part

3. Not creating the hooks

According to the book “The Secret:”

“Your whole life is a manifestation of the thoughts that goes in your head.”

Ancient people, too, practiced the law of manifestation. To possess the highest possible outcome in a situation, they’d give something back to nature as a sign of goodwill.

For example, before going to war, or a meeting, they’d plant a tree and donate to the animal shelter.

According to them, the “offering” technique helps with good fortune. Hindus and Arabs primarily use this manifestation technique to date. My father does this too:

“Before we travel, my family and I usually plant a flower in the back of our garden. By the time we’re back, life pulsates in the little thing. It’s also the start of something new.”

You see, little things are anchors to pull you out of the situation. Do something that makes you want to get up every day.

Maybe it’s:

• Following a diet plan to see changes
• Completing a book, or series
• Seeing a plant grow
• Following a skincare routine
• [Insert your own]

Most routines and plans take at least 1–3 months to follow. Doing them every day gives you a reason to get up tomorrow to see the changes. Hook your problems to daily life-growing solutions.

• Of course, what’s better than having a (mighty) wake-up plan?
• When you wake up, you have already achieved the day’s first milestone!

Final Thoughts:

Our mind is the actual root of success and failure. Tame it to the way you want to grow.

Our mind comes with a broom and mop. Use the broom to dust off problems and mop to keep your mind clean.

Simple.

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