3 Golden Negative Emotions that Ruin Your Life for Better

Sometimes these are better than happiness

I felt on top of the world when I was a class topper.

But when I failed in life exams, all the negative emotions taught me more than the tiny achievements of my life.

Below are a few lessons that have positively shaped my life.

#1. Heartbreak

The first breakup of my life gave me a high fever.

And with that fever, I had to take an exam.

Then, my entire life turned upside down.

Ten years fast forward.

I barely remember the heartbreak. But I am so proud of what it has made me.

Lesson:

• It has taught me to say no to anything or anyone that does not inspire me. We always want to impress everyone but ourselves.
• In any relationship, mental wavelength matching is the only thing that steers the partnership. It does not work on logic.
• It taught me never to disrespect my values or belief system to make others happy. You can make others happy only when your cup of happiness is to the brim.
• It introduced me to many hobbies that make me happy without anybody’s company.

“What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.”-Rumi

2. Loneliness

I have been living alone for the last two years. I romanticized having my own space. But the reality hit me hard.

I had to struggle with loneliness in many ways than I had imagined.

It has made me stronger than before.

”If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie

Loneliness has opened the doors to many hobbies that give me happiness and self-reliance.

Moreover, I have learned to be honest with myself.

Lessons:

• If you show weakness to others, chances are they will be mean to you.
• Loneliness teaches me not to depend on others for happiness.
• I have started online writing, cooking, and walking.
• Previously, I wanted to talk to anyone even if they didn’t share my values. Why? I could avoid loneliness. Now, I speak to only those whom I gel with.
• Loneliness has shown the power within me — the power that lies within everyone.

3. Fear

Two years back, I was anxious for an exam.

My brother made fun of me, seeing my weak state of being.

That day, I decided not to show my fear or anxiety to others.

Lesson:

• If anything bothers you, write it down. (I am writing now to drive away a nagging irritation within me. Again, I am waiting for an exam result and I am tensed)
• Believe that everything happens for a reason.
• When you overcome this phase, you will be proud to have dealt with it alone. From next time, you become independent to deal with any such situation.

Final lesson:

It’s always wise to first depend on yourself.