3 Ego-Free Behaviors You Must Complete to Union With Your Twin Flame
Is your current version ready to lift the intensity of being next to your twin flame?
Meeting our twin flame is an important spiritual development that creates a big wave in our lives. Although our soul knows from the very beginning that we have met our twin flame, we realize this later. We understand that there is a special intensity between us and that person, but unaware of the twin flame concept, we may think that these crazy sparking feelings are just some kind of intensity.
Our lives change after we meet the concept of twin flames because it is a journey that shapes our perspective on everything and who we are. Once we realize our point of view and thoughts towards everything in our lives and start to change our direction, we also move the roots of our lives.
After meeting our twin flame or activating our energetic space with it, we live by thinking that our only purpose is to come together with it. Wouldn’t it be great to be with this person who understands us the best and experiences the most intense and safe energetic attraction? Well, we ignore the fact that the universe has something to say about it. Yes, it would be nice to be around our twin flame all the time, but is your current version ready to handle this intensity and spiritual elevation?
This is the area we find difficult to accept. Because twin flames share the same energy density, their ego selves can exert a great push against each other. Because we’re not ready to see all of each other’s vulnerabilities. We realize from the very beginning that this is not a fairy tale. Because in fairy tales, people do not need to heal themselves or leave. But the twin flame journey mainly begins after separation.
In this article, we will talk about the ego-free emotions and behaviors that we must complete to achieve unity on the twin flame journey.
Why should deep self-digging work be done on a twin flame journey?
While I don’t like to say it, there were many times when I avoided seeing my twin flame’s face and couldn’t look into their eyes. I couldn’t even look at the photos. Because every time I looked, I saw a lot of things in me that bothered me about myself. It was an uncomfortable feeling, like looking closely at my face in the mirror and looking at acne scars on my skin. I didn’t know what to do with these scars that I couldn’t get rid of no matter what I did.
I had a history with these scars and now I saw them as a part of me. Such were the stereotypes that I had to work with inside me. Here, looking into my twin flame’s eyes was making me transparently face-to-face with myself. While I always had the courage to get into my feelings, I was still very distant from some of my shadows. So I thought that staying away from my twin would calm the storm inside me. This attitude caused the light wind inside me to get bigger and turn into a sandstorm.
I realized 7 months ago that I needed to dig deeper inside myself. This meant that now I had to finish the complaints and ego excuses and work on myself in more detail. This was the equivalent of unraveling everything my twin flame was avoiding giving me. I had buried my own worth and fortune in a point inside me.
Now I had to remove it. I was pushing the things I wanted away from myself in some automatic behavior. I saw that everything I was triggered was shaped by me rather than the influence of the outside. I was shocked when I thought about how many things I did without thinking. My current thought system was formed at some point in the past and today I had to untie this impasse with my conscious self.
Ending egoic complaints
Emotions and thoughts from the ego are cold as ice. It really makes you shiver as if you’ve waited a long time in the cold. In these thoughts, we can combine unhealthy giving and receiving behavior with selfishness. The ego is like a little child who always wants to win. But the ego is far from the innocence of a whiny child. Our ego uses all kinds of tricks to take over us and our system.
On a scientific basis, this is an automatic act of the ego to protect us from danger. What we learn in our subconscious until the age of 7 at the latest is our basic knowledge in this life. And the ego thinks it is our only reality without distinguishing them. And it doesn’t open the door to anything that doesn’t fit this information. That’s why the diversity of love, respect, and other information that enters our system until the age of 7 is very important.
Even though I grew up in a loving family, I am still amazed at the feeling of pain and sadness that I now combine with love. My body is always trying to keep me away from love because it can’t separate it from the feeling of anxiety when I’m in love. This increases my resentment toward love even more. Being offended by something is also a way to stay away from it. It’s a kind of emotional disengagement from what we turn off and get offended by. So here we think that we cut off our energy from that person or situation, but on the contrary, we continue to give more. Because our minds are still there. We don’t know that trying not to think about something gives it more energy.
Two other ego-based behaviors I have observed in myself are revenge and spite. Even though I don’t like to take revenge, I continue to make revenge plans inside of me. Revenge is someone’s plan to make them live in other ways than what they’ve given us. This too is ego based. Because the ego is very fragile. He wants to do the same with primitive feelings that have been done to us. Since the ego does not know how to forgive, this brings the feeling of a grudge in the next step. If we have a grudge inside, we can never fully purify and return to our essence. Because the grudge within us always tries to feed on negative emotions by keeping them. If you cannot transform this negative energy, you will live with anger inside you that you never understand.
Make peace with yourself and get grounded
Making peace with yourself is a highly overrated term. While reconciliation may seem like basically the same thing as forgiveness, there are some differences. The process of making peace with ourselves can take time, and this is normal. While it is important for us to forgive ourselves for everything in life, we may not be able to do so at first. It’s also important to admit anything that offends us before we forgive. Acceptance gives us as much comfort as surrender. If forgiveness is more like paying off debt, surrendering is letting go.
So the twin flame is also a journey of surrender. I surrender to all versions of myself. I don’t judge every behavior of my previous self and anything that it couldn’t do in the present. I accept everything and go my way. Reconciliation comes after acceptance. Because now you can see and forgive the details that bother you about the things you accept as part of your development.
Whenever I accept everything and forgive myself, I feel grounded. I feel like my roots are getting better on the ground. Because when I accept my feelings, I prevent them from scattering all over the place and collect them all within me. Because the meaning of being grounded is to “bring yourself to the present.” I gather all my feelings and thoughts from the past and the future, and I connect to the place where I am now. And this is great freedom.
Self-compassion and love
The act of showing self-compassion comes after forgiving and accepting oneself with everything. Because compassion is a very inclusive emotion. Compassion is a blanket that silently covers all anger, hatred, and worries. It is to accept our every flaw by acting from our heart. To love is only possible by showing compassion. Because love isn’t just about the things we like or find “right”. We may not like ourselves because we do not meet the standards of society. But the love within us is about giving ourselves compassion beyond all standards.
The point of unconditional love in the twin flame journey is a state of existence that we want to reach. But actually, this existence is within us. It involves feeling everything in its simplest form. It is separating someone from all their material status and accepting them just for being. When we embrace ourselves in this way, we can also understand the unconditional love of the twin flame journey. To accept oneself unconditionally with compassion is to cleanse our existence of all judgments, waves of shame, and moral norms.
Although there is no shortcut to speeding up our twin flame journey, moving forward with our heart’s approval, and noticing the points where ego-based behaviors lead us will make our inner journey much easier. Forgive past versions of yourself to allow your authentic self to emerge more freely. Erase the stories you wrote with your past selves and rewrite your story with your present consciousness.
Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about mind, hard feelings and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link:
