3 Best Books on How Men Can Learn About Their Sexual Energy and Wand of Light
Books that will show you how to embody your sexual energy
When I was in primary school, I proudly pinned a picture of a sexy blonde, buxom Supergirl on my bedroom wall.
This was 2 days after attending a sex education class at school. I don’t know why, but I knew I liked her and she ignited some strange feeling inside of me. Before this, all I was interested in was football. But not anymore.
Besides the occasional sex education class at school, my sex education from me and my mates was looking at pornographic magazines.
Parents in the 80s didn’t know how to talk about sex.
It wasn’t until in my earlier 30s and I did some neo-tantra courses did I appreciate how to manage and redirect my sexual energy.
These 3 books will change how you view your sexual energy and teach you how to use it as your superpower.
Practice of Brahmacharya by Swami Sivananda
The Bible on ejaculation control comes from the East, the land of the Kama Sutra, India.
Swami Shivananda was a medical doctor turned monk. After a successful medical career, he turned his back on fame and money and retired to the Himalayas.
He scribed a very important document while in his ashram, The Divine Life Society in Rishikesh, India. The Practice of Brahmacharya is the ultimate compendium on semen retention.
Brahmacharya, in the Hindu tradition, is a vow taken by swami’s (Indian monks.) In the ultimate sense, it is reframing from any sexual contact. This is to be done at all levels of the personality–physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.
The book starts by highlighting the importance of Brahmacharya in spiritual growth. Its role in the overall well-being of man.
Brahmacharya is not only abstaining from sexual activities. But also includes controlling the mind, thoughts, and senses.
Swami Sivananda highlights the benefits of practicing brahmacharya, at the physical and mental levels. He explains by conserving vital energy and redirecting it inward, individuals experience increased strength, clarity of mind, and spiritual progress.
This book provides practical guidance on how to cultivate and maintain brahmacharya. It offers techniques and practices to overcome sexual impulses, control the mind, and transmute sexual energy into higher forms of creative and spiritual energy.
Swami Sivananda addresses various aspects related to Brahmacharya:
- Diet
- Impact of negative influences
- Importance of pure thoughts
- Noble company
- Practice of selfless service.
Throughout the book, Swami Sivananda incorporates teachings from ancient scriptures, anecdotes, and practical examples. These illustrate the significance and application of brahmacharya in a man’s daily life.
The aim is to help individuals develop self-control, discipline, and spiritual progress.
“Practice of Brahmacharya” is a comprehensive manual for man interested in understanding and adopting the principles of celibacy and self-restraint in their spiritual journey, aiming to lead a balanced, purposeful, and enlightened life.
My favorite quotes from Practice of Brahmacharya by Swami Sivananda
“Mind, Prana and Veerya are one. By controlling the mind, you can control Prana and semen. By controlling Prana you can control the mind and semen. By controlling semen, you can control the mind and Prana.”
“The energy that is wasted during one sexual intercourse is tantamount to the energy that is spent in physical labor for ten days or the energy that is utilized in mental work for three days.”
“Mark how precious is the vital fluid, semen! Do not waste this energy.”
The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chai and Douglas Abrams Arava
“Men, you need to embrace the sexual energy in your wand of light (penis)!” Proclaimed my new Israeli Neo-tantra teacher 18 years ago.
This was my first introduction to Mantak and the world of the Tao.
This classic from the 90s put Mantak on the map for men’s sexuality.
The book focuses on the exploration and cultivation of male sexual energy and the achievement of multiple orgasms.
“The Multi-Orgasmic Man” delves into the ancient practices of Taoist and Neo-tantra.
Men can expand their sexual potential, experience more pleasure, and achieve multiple orgasms without ejaculation.
The book introduces:
It combines practical instructions, theoretical knowledge, and personal anecdotes to guide readers on their journey toward heightened sexual experiences and expanded consciousness.
My favorite quotes from The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chai and Douglas Abrams Arava
“In China, doctors, long ago saw what the French call le petit mort—the little death of ejaculation — as an avoidable betrayal of male pleasure and a dangerous depletion of male vitality.”
“Sexual energy, or ching-chi in Chinese, is one of the most obvious and powerful types of bioelectric energy.”
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
As the tagline for this book suggests, it’s a spiritual guide to mastering the challenges of sexual desire.
David Deida, in short, easy-to-read chapters, explores the challenges and opportunities faced by men in relationships, sexuality, and personal growth. It offers insights and guidance for men seeking to live a more authentic, purposeful, and fulfilling life.
The book emphasizes the importance of masculine integrity and the expression of purpose in a man’s life. Deida encourages men to embrace their core desires, passions, and ambitions, urging them to live with clarity and direction.
David explores the dynamics between masculine and feminine energies, highlighting the need for a harmonious interplay and mutual respect between partners.
David Deida delves into the nature of sexual attraction and provides insights on:
- How men can deepen their sexual experiences
- Cultivate intimacy
- Navigate the complexities of relationships.
He emphasizes the importance of authentic communication, emotional presence, and the willingness to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth.
Throughout the book, David Deida challenges conventional notions of masculinity and encourages men to embrace their unique strengths while transcending societal expectations and limitations. He encourages men to live in alignment with their deepest purpose and to fully embody their masculine essence.
My favorite quotes from The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
“The way of a superior man is threefold: virtuous, he is free from anxieties; wise, he is free from perplexities; bold, he is free from fear.”
“The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. She won’t settle for anything less. She knows it is true of you. She knows in your deepest heart you are free, you are Shiva. Anything less than that she will torment. And, as you know, she’s quite good at it.”
“The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.”
Your sexual energy is not something to be ashamed of. It needs to be embraced and embodied. Through the various techniques and ideas from Swami Sivananda, Mantak Chia and David Deida, your sexual energy acts as an agent of change.
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