Self-Improvement
200 Questions To Ask Yourself In Your Lifetime
Spend time in a state of reflection, which leads to elevation
Starting Questions
- Am I fulfilled with the life I have lived thus far?
- Who is the person I am becoming?
- What legacy will I leave on this earth?
- Am I living my best life now?
- When is the last time I laughed?
- What is the last act of kindness I did for someone else?
Career
- Do I like my job?
- Does my job add or detract happiness from my life?
- What are my talents?
- What are my skills?
- What activities cause me to lose track of time (in a good way)?
- What is my dream career?
- Do I like my boss?
- Do I feel valued at work?
- Am I respected at work?
- How do I feel after completing a workday?
- How do I feel when I’m on my way to work and/or getting ready for work?
Choices
- What choices have I made that are negatively impacting my life today?
- Am I a quick decision-maker? If not, why?
- What choices have I made that positively impacted my life the most? Why?
- What choices do I regret? Why?
- What choices do I need to make that I have been sitting on for years?
- How can I make the most of my least productive choices?
- Who do I allow to influence my decisions? Are they positive influences?
- Do I tend to make responsible choices or irresponsible choices? Why?
- Do I think before I make a decision? If not, why?
- What is one productive and positive choice I can implement in my life today?
Dreams
- What are my dreams? Why are these my dreams?
- Am I working on my dreams?
- Do I care if I accomplish my dreams during my lifetime?
- Do I put consistent effort into my dreams?
- Is there anything or anyone that I am allowing to stop me from making my dreams a reality?
- Do I believe I can accomplish my dreams?
- Do I value my dreams?
- When I think about my dreams, how do I feel?
- Do I believe in myself?
- Do I believe that I am capable of accomplishing anything I set my mind to?
Emotional Well-Being
- What is my current emotional state?
- Am I happy?
- Am I depressed?
- Am I stressed out, worried, anxious, or feeling burdened with life? If so, why and what can I do to change this?
- What is the most consistent emotion I feel regularly? What does this mean for me?
- Are there things that happened to me that are affecting my present? If so, am I ready to deal with them so I can move forward?
- Do I take care of myself? Do I value me?
- Do I let others take advantage of my time, body, and resources?
- Am I kind to myself and others?
- What kind of energy do I put into the universe?
Family
- Do I have healthy relationships with my family members?
- Do I spend time with my family?
- Do I value my family?
- Do I demonstrate and convey to my family that I appreciate them?
- Am I holding onto past wrongs a family member(s) did to me?
- Am I bitter towards anyone in my family? If so, what is stopping me from forgiving them?
- Do I offer to help my family when they need assistance?
- Am I a reliable member of my family?
- When is the last time I conveyed to my family that I love and care about them?
- What does family mean to me?
Friendship
- What characteristics would describe my closest friends?
- Why did I choose my closest friends?
- Are the people I consider friends adding value to my life?
- Do my friends talk negatively about their close friends to me?
- Am I a quality friend?
- Do I give and add value to the lives of my friends, or do I only take?
- Do my friends only take from me, or do they add value to my life?
- What characteristics do I value most in a person I consider a friend?
- Do I have a reliable network of friends I can count on in time of need?
Goals
- What are my top 5 goals right now?
- Are my goals written out somewhere I can review them quickly and often?
- Am I proud of what I have accomplished in my life so far?
- What is my number one goal? How often am I working on this goal?
- What am I investing my time in each day?
- Am I a goal-oriented person?
- Do I set limits for myself?
- Who is currently supporting me and my goals?
- Are any of my goals contributing back to society?
- What is my purpose?
- Where am I going from here?
Habits
- What productive habits do I have in my life?
- What unproductive habits do I have in my life?
- Do I have any harmful habits in my life? If so, why are these habits still in my life?
- What is the most valuable habit in my life right now?
- What is one positive habit I would like to implement in my life today?
- What areas of my life need more discipline? When will I implement discipline into these areas?
- Do I thrive in environments with structure or little structure?
- Am I a doer or wisher?
- My life would drastically improve if I implemented the habit of ___________. So, why haven’t I applied this habit yet?
- What unproductive or negative habits have I adopted due to the influence of others?
Health
- How would I rate my current physical health (1–10)?
- Are there any parts of my body that consistently experience pain?
- Am I satisfied with my health status?
- What measures do I consistently implement to maintain my health?
- What is my current diet? Is my diet helping me or hurting me (take into account short-term and long-term)?
- What could I do better regarding my health?
- Do I get regular check-ups (e.g., semiannual dental & annual physical exams) and blood work?
- Do I floss daily? Do I brush my teeth at least twice daily? Do I invest in my oral hygiene?
- How often do I intake water and fresh vegetables and fruits?
- Do I supplement my diet with vitamins and minerals?
Love
- Who are the people I love most?
- What does the word “love” mean to me?
- Do I feel like I am loved unconditionally?
- Am I capable of loving others and myself?
- How do I convey love to others? Does it make sense the way I love others?
- Do loving others scare me or excite me?
- What does real love look like to me?
- How many of my relationships would I consider to have been healthy love?
Money
- How would I describe my relationship with money?
- Do I have debt? If so, why? Furthermore, if I have debt, what changes do I need to make to get out of it?
- How much money do I want to make a year? Is that number anywhere close to what I make now?
- Am I comfortable discussing topics relating to money?
- What is the last piece of financial information I learned?
- How often do I educate myself on money and finance?
- What are my top 3–5 financial goals?
- Do I regularly track my spending?
- Am I consistently saving my money? If so, what percentage of my income do I save?
- Am I on track for retirement?
- Would I consider myself financially independent?
- How do I utilize money now?
My Body
- What do I think of my body?
- What is my least favorite part of my body? Do I have one?
- What is my favorite part of my body?
- Am I satisfied with the way I look?
- Am I satisfied with my weight?
- Am I satisfied with the way I feel physically?
- Are there any parts of my body that consistently experience pain?
- Am I confident or insecure in the way I look and feel?
- Do I wear clothing that accentuates my body or hides my body?
- Do I consistently take care of my body?
Past
- What skeletons in my past have I not dealt with?
- What issues am I having today that stem from my past?
- How am I different today than I was a decade ago? Have any positive changes been implemented into my life?
- What or who do I miss that used to be a part of my life?
- What choices do I need to make today to prevent a repeat of past situations that did not work in my favor?
- Who do I need to forgive?
- What is something I have always wanted to do but still have not done it?
- What were my childhood dreams?
Relationships
- Am I happy in my current relationship (with someone else or myself)?
- What about my current relationship bothers me most?
- What type of people do I tend to gravitate towards romantically?
- Do I prefer to be single or in a relationship?
- Do I enjoy the relationship I have with myself? Do I enjoy alone time?
- What are the top 10 characteristics I look for in a romantic partner?
- How do I let others treat me in relationships?
- How do I treat others when I am in a relationship with them?
- The most beautiful, fun, and happy relationship I have been in was with ___________, and this is why:
- What does a healthy relationship look like?
- Have I modeled what healthy relationships look like?
- Do I often smile in the relationship I am currently in?
- Does the relationship I am in bring out the best or the worst in me?
- Do I currently feel uncomfortable around anyone in my life?
Residence
- Do I like my home?
- Do I live in a clean environment?
- Would I rather live in a different city, state, or country?
- Am I comfortable with the amount of space I live in?
- Am I unsatisfied with my home? If so, what is the reason behind my staying here?
- Do I take care of the home I live in?
- When is the last time I felt or mentioned gratitude for the place I live?
- What is my favorite room in my home? Why?
- Is my home a safe space for me?
- Do I feel comfortable, happy, and free within my own home?
Self
- What is important to me?
- What do I need?
- When do I come alive?
- What do I desire most?
- What do I love?
- Who do I love most?
- What are my hobbies?
- What things make me smile?
- What people make me smile?
- What sucks the life out of me?
- What makes me angry?
- What am I most passionate about?
- What is my purpose?
- How do I serve others?
- What do I believe in?
- Who am I?
- When is the last time I celebrated myself?
- How would I describe the relationship I have with myself?
- Do I trust myself?
- When is the last time I did something fun? How often do I engage in fun and meaningful activities?
- How have I made myself better within the past year?
- What are the top 5 goals I want to achieve in my lifetime?
- What things or people bother me the most? Why?
- Why does my life look the way it looks right now?
- What is the first thing or person I think about when I wake up?
- What is the last thing or person I think about before I go to sleep?
- What places do I want to visit?
- What do I look forward to?
Sex
- How often do I have sex?
- Do I like sex?
- Am I comfortable discussing sex? If so, why? If not, why?
- Do I communicate my wants and needs for sex clearly and directly?
- When I have sex, do I practice safe sex?
- What does sex mean to me?
- Am I selective about my sexual partners?
- Is sex fun for me or a bore?
- Have I taken the time to learn my body, wants, and needs sexually?
Sleep
- Is my sleep usually peaceful or disturbed?
- How do I usually unwind? Is it working well?
- How many hours of sleep do I usually get each day? Is it enough? If not, what can I do, starting today, to ensure I get enough sleep?
- What is usually the last thing I do before bed? Is it something that promotes healthy sleep?
- When I dream, does it tend to be light-hearted and positive or heavy and negative?
Destiny S. Harris is a writer, poet, entrepreneur, teacher, and techie who offers free books daily on amazon. Destiny obtained three degrees in political science, psychology, and women’s studies. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, or @ destinyh.com






