20 Things I Remind Myself When I Get Off The Track

If people are showing you shit in the name of friendship and love, let them go. If they are calling you names, let them go. They are not meant to be there in your life for a reason. God is planning your life and trusts his masterplan than following stupid illusions of your mind.

1. It’s okay to feel demotivated for a while. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to cry on your miseries. It’s okay to scream out loud at the wall. It’s okay to abuse and choose yourself again and again.
2. People will always rejoice your fall. Choose your enemies wisely and keep them at an arm’s length.
3. Nobody is going to be available for you 24x7. It’s all a myth. A therapist you just paid your hard-earned money is not even bothered about your miseries. The medications you just took are again a part of the game of driving yourself crazy. Release your fear and face it with courage in the eyes.
4. Pray and kneel. Crawl at snail’s speed. Look for God because God has always been looking out there for you too. Pray and die praying but don’t ruin your faith believing in fake friends, relatives, and acquaintances.
5. Tell your truth loudly and fearlessly to yourself. You don’t owe anything to anyone. You are a prisoner till the time you don’t hold the responsibility for yourself.
6. People will always mock you no matter what you do. Get ready to be judged by them until your death bed and even afterward. But do they matter? That’s the choice you must have to make for yourself.
7. You are going to meet 95% shitholes in your life to praise 5% of genuine souls. That’s how the whole universe works. You got to keep your eyes open all the time to call spade a spade and never dare to handle any disgrace from others.
8. If people are showing you shit in the name of friendship and love, let them go. If they are calling you names, let them go. They are not meant to be there in your life for a reason. God is planning your life and trusts his masterplan than following stupid illusions of your mind.
9. When they care for you they would let you know. Any sort of sign will come to you. And if they don’t you would get more signs to sideline them as if they never existed for you too.
10. Before blaming God or circumstances, go for the SWOT analysis for the person or a situation bringing you stress. I have done this in my last relationship and I wrote 20 pages. It served its purpose and I realized how come I was being with a TARD who was bringing me down for his selfish motives.
11. No matter how miserable you think you are when nothing works out in life. Look in the mirror with a huge grin on your face and tell yourself again and again “You are enough”.
12. When a dark phase in life strikes nobody is going to support you or listen to your stories. They would pretend that they can relate to your pain and would be there for you. But, my experience says to make yourself self-sufficient so that they get a message you aren’t relying on anyone other than almighty.
13. Your wound may take time and it may not be healed completely. That’s okay. Life is not a race. What worked for me may not work for you and that doesn’t make you a weak person. Take your time. You are a work-in-progress and keep working on yourself.
14. The more you would get real to yourself, the more friends you will lose. Some won’t be able to digest how come you are standing firm on your feet after being through a lot. Trust me, that’s where your real strength lies.
15. Some will come near or back to you after taking a break to destroy you more. This has been done by my best friend and I realized his mental sickness should have been handled well so that he wouldn’t have followed the same pattern of damaging others. Your damage is your responsibility not a way to square things out with others.
16. Go and explore more and more about places than people. Become a solo traveler or travel in groups whatever suits you but don’t die without traveling to different places exploring different cultures. Death will come to each of us but make life more interesting.
17. Write fearlessly, love fearlessly, breathe fearlessly, workout fearlessly, wear clothes fearlessly and do everything else fearlessly too. Don’t give a damn about what others are thinking about you. They are not YOU for a reason.
18. Pat yourself on the back once in a week because you have been doing everything to keep things going on no matter how hard it may seem at times. Hug yourself. Pamper yourself. Love yourself. Smile more often and watch comedy movies.
19. Drink a lot of water and eat healthy food. First, it would seem more like punishment but then one day you will realize how strongly you prepared yourself to turn your back from unhealthy food, people, and the environment.
20. Say “Fuck You” on the face than regretting later on. You don’t have to kill yourself over the remarks of the others. You know your truth and in this lifetime it is far better than living your life on society’s terms than following your heart desires.

Gurpreet Dhariwal is the author of “My Soul Rants: Poems of a Born Spectator.” Her eBook is now available at Google PlayStore, Amazon, and Kindle. Connect with Gurpreet on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, or Youtube