2 Useful Tips To Improve Relationships From A Male Perspective
Men should write more about how they must change their behaviours towards their spouses. I delve deeper into why we (as men) have these behavioural traits and methods I use to create a step-change in enhancing my relationships.
Spouses can be difficult at times but is this due to how we perceive the situation or rather different ways of looking at a situation. In my opinion, I feel that it is how we perceive the situation. Intolerance must be worked on and we must transition our mindset to focus on positivity, rather than negativity.
In the past couple of years, I have made leaps and bounds in terms of changing my behaviours. Going through hardship always develops you faster and enhances your resilience to the curve balls that life can throw at you. Pre pandemic, I was in my late 20’s. Looking back over this time, I was always looking for short team goals and my relationships were not quite where I wanted them to be. While in the pandemic, I met someone and I have become more strategic in thinking about long-term goals with the person. Now that I have moved into my 30s, I think more about responsibility as well as giving, rather than taking. Giving teaches us to be less selfish and enables us to be happier as individuals.
Below I provide two methods as to how we (men) can enhance our relationships with our spouses.
Compassion and Empathy
As we know, most men try to show their macho side at all times to portray ultimate strength. This is especially the case with mates and we all do this so that weaknesses are not shown. This can then have a leading effect on our marriages and relationships with women. We must show compassion and empathy and this can be increased through giving which I mention above. We also tend to hide our emotions, which can cause internal stresses that we are not aware of. We have to show strength but also show compassion/empathy through kindness and love. Loving yourself is something that I never really thought about until I read about it on medium. Changing your mindset to be kind within the mind can enable you to become kinder to other people. This is a step-change to enhanced positive growth. Looking inwards, allows the outer look to flourish, which enables relationships to become more positive.
I have added a link below to one of my favourite TEDx on compassion and empathy, it is a must-watch!
Acceptance of Others
Acceptance of others and their ways are key to successful relationships. As individuals, we cannot change anyone and we must accept them for their character. If we can tolerate anyone, it makes us invincible and allows us to be an anchor for support. If you understand yourself and realise that you can be a leader for others, it will help you grow and make yourself true. For me, being an introvert is far easier than being an extrovert. The pandemic has made me far more introverted and I must find solutions to enable me to grow out of the shell that I have built over the past year or so. Accepting others and having an understanding that, as humans, we all have the same thoughts and aims to be happy. In the end, this will allow us to make relationships work, rather than breaking them.
I hope the above has helped, thanks for reading and have a great rest of your week!
