16 Fears That You Need To Let Go Of
Free your mind of the restraints and embrace your life.
People want to be understood. It’s our lifeline.
There’s no better feeling than having a conversation with someone and having them look you in the eyes and say:
“I understand how you feel.”
The problem is, for must of us, we don’t understand our selves.
We keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results and wondering why on earth, we keep doing the things that guarantee our own unhappiness.
Why? Perhaps it’s because we live in fear.
We live in fear because we think that if we were to confront those fears, we might gain a better understanding of our own negative behaviors.
If you want to free yourself from not only your fears but also the limiting beliefs that continuously hold you back from your fullest potential, you need to learn to let go.
Here’s a list of what needs to go first.
The fear of change.
Change is inevitable. It’s pointless to fear it; it will have it’s the way with you one way or another.
Embrace it, because that’s what will help you grow and evolve.
The fear of being hurt.
Getting hurt is part of falling in love.
It’s part of growing. It’s part of life, sometimes the people you care about will disappoint you. Growth never promised us that it would be pain-free.
The fear of humiliation.
Learn to become more detached. Life throws a few curveballs at you; it’s not the end of the world.
The fear of failure.
It’s only through failure that you will learn how to overcome obstacles.
The fear of success.
It can be overwhelming. Embrace it; this is what you’ve been waiting for all along.
The fear of loneliness.
Reclaim your relationship with yourself.
Many of us live in a state of chronic distraction from our experience.
Being alone means being capable of entering more fully into your experience.
The fear of connection.
We need people.
Human connection is a core psychological need that is essential to feeling satisfied with life.
You don’t need 10, 20 or 30 people. Sometimes all you need is 1 or 2 good people in your life.
The fear of unhappiness.
Happiness is a choice.
You have to actively make the decision to be happy every single day. It’s not just going to fall out of the sky every day.
The fear of being too happy.
When something seems too good to be true — and it looks like a lot has happened in your favor recently, it makes you feel suspicious.
When things go off track we complain, when things are going too well we complain, why not just embrace life as it comes?
The fear of not getting approval from our parents.
Detach yourself.
If you feel there is someone in your life holding you back, a spouse, a family member, or a friend, see if you’ve mentally created chains between you and that person. Ask yourself: how can you break those chains, and what would the benefits be?
There’s nothing wrong with seeking approval from loves ones, there is something wrong when that approval becomes a need rather than a want, and you begin to experience feelings of pain, sadness and anxiety over it.
The fear of not getting approval from strangers or those in a position of power.
Humans share an innate drive to connect with others.
We’re evolutionarily wired to crave inclusion. However, constantly seeking approval in the office can seriously derail your professional development in the long run.
If you’re constantly seeking approval from your co-workers or your boss, or someone in a position of power, it can lead to burnout and unhappiness at work and in your personal life.
Focus on getting approval from yourself. You’re the one that needs to be happy.
The fear of bad health.
The fear of bad health can be very natural; nobody wants to go to the hospital or have issues with their own bodies.
It’s very healthy to be worried about your health from time to time if you have a stomach ache after something you ate — by all means, check the nutrition label. Identify what it is that made you feel poorly.
However, people with health anxiety often misinterpret normal or benign physical symptoms and attribute them to something more serious.
You can’t live your life in fear every day, thinking every ache or pain is detrimental.
The fear of losing a job.
We need to learn to trust the universe a little more.
Even when things seem terrible and disappointing, you need to remember who you are and the skills you have to offer. That wasn’t the only job in the world; there are better things coming.
Maybe it was high time to get out of that job that wasn’t serving you.
The fear of losing friends.
Your friendships mean the world to you — it’s your platform where you’re accepted and where you bloom.
But, people change. They evolve, they grow. Sometimes they don’t — and if you’re growing and evolving — you need to be around people that are doing the same.
New friendships will develop as your life experiences change. Embrace the friendships you have, but always know that there’s more out there.
The fear of oblivion.
We somehow know within us that we were not meant to be forgotten.
We know that we were made for something bigger — be honest with yourself, somehow at some point in your life, you’ve thought of that, and you’ve felt it.
Instead of spending all your time fearing it — instead, focus all of that energy into creating something that will last. Whether that’s relationships, a business venture, books, whatever it may be.
The fear of being responsible for our own lives.
We fear that if we take responsibility for our own lives — then any moment of failure and unhappiness becomes our own fault.
Failure is inevitable. You won’t always be happy, and that’s 110% okay.
Emotions demand to be felt — pain, sorrow, grief.
Take responsibility for your life and build it into what you want. You’re the canvas and the artist.
