12 Small Actions That Show A Man’s Love

He may not say it, but he’ll show it.

I often hear from women that they wish the man in their life was more expressive when it comes to his feelings.

The truth is that not all men are comfortable with, or even know how to, verbally communicate how they feel or why they feel it. But, this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care.

It is not better or worse, it does not mean more or less, it just shows that men all express their affection in their own ways (as do women, of course).

So, even if your guy isn’t telling you how he feels, here are some ways he might be showing you at all different stages of your relationship together.

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1. He brings you around his friends.

One of the most important signs of a man’s interest is that he integrates you into his life and brings you around the people he cares about the most.

This is a sign that he’s merging your lives together and is willing to share the important things (and people) with you. If he continues keeping a distance between you and the core pieces of his life, that’s a red flag.

2. He really listens to you.

One of the major things that men often get accused of is being terrible listeners. Whether we don’t remember that it was your friend’s birthday this weekend, or which scented candle was your favorite one at the store — the small details matter most. A man who really cares for you will listen intently and do his best to absorb all of the details that he can. It is his way of showing you that he values you and what you have to say.

Active listening is also a sign of respect. Not just nodding along with “uh huh, mmhmm,” but really engaging with what you have to say.

3. He stays close to you physically.

It could be keeping his arm around you, hugging you randomly, or cuddling up on the couch — a man who truly cares and enjoys your company will always want to be in close proximity to you. Physical contact, even when ‘innocent,’ sends non-verbal messages that are meaningful, and even more meaningful if they’re not just about sex.

Everyone has different love languages (physical touch, words of affirmation, gift giving, quality time, or acts of service), but physical touch seems to be a primary one for men, generally speaking.

4. He is all smiles after you kiss.

You know, that feeling…

5. He’s in frequent communication with you.

Two people who genuinely enjoy each other’s company don’t need a reason to talk to each other. If he texts or calls you just to say hello, to see how your day is going, or to say good morning and goodnight, it is a clear sign that he thinks about you often and wants you to know it.

Men who disappear for days at a time or run hot and cold with their communication are distancing themselves from you — even the busiest of men can send a text at some point in the day to let you know he’s busy and will get back to you when he can.

6. He doesn’t care what you’re doing, as long as you’re together.

Oh, you have to hit Target today or get things for your party this weekend? Count him in.

For the man who wants to spend as much time with you as he can, it’s not just going to be on date night or when you are intimate together. A meaningful relationship is just as much about sharing in everyday things together, as it is about the exciting things.

7. He mirrors your behavior and body language.

While some of us recognize this as an effective form of communication as well as a method to make someone more comfortable around us, many people will just become so in-tune with the person they are with that they subconsciously start duplicating gestures, positions, or postures.

If you find him touching your arm after you touch his, uncrossing his legs after you uncross yours, or leaning in to you during conversation after you lean in to him — it shows he is paying close attention to you, whether he realizes it or not.

8. He puts thought into the gifts he gives you.

Anyone can go and do something simple like picking up flowers or a box of chocolates, particularly on a special occasion.

A real sign of interest and love is when he custom-tailors his gift giving just for you.

I am by no means saying that he’ll try to buy your affection. It could just be that he picked up the candy you like on his last trip to the grocery store. It’s not about the dollar amount or what the gift is. It’s about why he got it for you and how much thought it required to pick out.

9. He compromises.

No great relationship was ever built on the foundation of “what’s in it for me?”

A man who is just playing the field will have no reason to sacrifice his own self-interest for somebody…unless he feels something deeper for them. When we begin to develop love for someone, we want to see them happy, even if that means putting our own self-interests aside for the sake of theirs. Her happiness becomes our happiness.

This is not to say he will become a doormat — there is a big difference between compromise and sacrifice. It goes both ways.

10. He will go pick up your dry cleaning.

Or whatever it is that you don’t have time to do yourself. He’ll do the dishes after you cook, or he’ll cook so you don’t have to after a long day. He’ll run out for a last minute errand, or bring you coffee at work.

Men enjoy having a task or a mission to accomplish because it gives them purpose or meaning. It makes him feel like he can contribute to your life, even in small ways.

He will put in the effort to make your life easier, just because.

11. He asks for your advice.

If a man asks you for your advice on a decision he is trying to make or a situation that he is in, it means he values your opinion enough to take you seriously and actually use it as a guiding light in his own life. If a man values your thoughts, it means he values you.

If he never considers your opinions or asks for your input when making important decisions, it could be a sign that he’s keeping an emotional distance between you, or simply doesn’t respect your viewpoint enough to take it into consideration.

12. He always makes you feel safe.

Men are naturally protective. Millions of years of biological evolution have brought us to the point where we naturally want to protect those we love, whether they need it or not.

Making you feel safe isn’t just physical, but also emotional. Safe opening up to him. Safe giving your heart to him. Safe expressing your truest self without fear of judgment.

A man who loves and cares for you will make you feel safe in all areas of life. He will never make you question whether or not he will be there for you in a time of need. A man who loves you will make you feel it in his own ways.

When he really cares, you will know it and feel it — if he doesn’t, you will be wondering all the time if he does.

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James Michael Sama is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and personal development coach.

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