12 Life Lessons To ShakeUp Your Life In 2023.

Summary

The article presents 12 life lessons that encourage personal growth, resilience, and self-assurance, emphasizing the importance of joy, peace, gratitude, and setting high standards for oneself.

Abstract

The author, Adaobi Okwy, shares profound insights aimed at transforming one's life in 2023, urging readers to embrace the understanding that answers to prayers may not always align with expectations. The piece underscores the significance of cultivating joy and peace through conscious decisions and actions, and the necessity of maintaining high personal standards in the face of adversity. It advises on the importance of gratitude, the selective acceptance of positive energy, and the strength found in self-belief and independence. The lessons also touch on the potential harm of clinging too tightly to desires, the futility of waiting for closure from those who have caused pain, and the personal power in moving forward regardless of setbacks.

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Answers to prayers may manifest differently than anticipated, and this should not be a source of discouragement.
Joy and peace are not merely by-products of external circumstances but are actively chosen and practiced states of being.
It is crucial to maintain personal dignity and standards when faced with negativity or toxic behavior from others.
Trust in a higher power's guidance is recommended, with a focus on personal growth rather than external noise.
Virtues such as peace and patience are built through realistic expectations and resilience in the face of challenges.
Gratitude is a key component of a fulfilling life, and one should always seek out reasons to be thankful.
It is important to protect one's energy by distancing oneself from toxic influences.
Self-reliance and self-worth should be prioritized over tolerating negative behaviors from others.
Over-attachment to desires can lead to suffering, and the evolution of these desires should be accepted.
Closure should not be sought from those who cause harm; instead, one should focus on personal progress and the belief that justice will prevail.
Personal determination and fight for one's desires will ultimately lead to success, regardless of short-term obstacles.

Ignore them at your own peril.

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Answers to prayers don’t always look like what we prayed for.

Joy and peace are the greatest treasures. I used to think one prayed, meditated or hoped one’s way into joy and peace but not so. Joy and peace begins with a decision and continues with intentional acts of practice. You see yourself outside them or you catch yourself spiraling, reign control of your thoughts and if you can, remove yourself from the conversation or situation. They will never be worth the price of your joy or peace.

Don’t sweat. Don’t stress. Don’t fuss. When people go low, raise your standards. They belong down there, you don’t. Give pigs all the dirt. It will come to pass.

God will always come Through and True. Forget the noise. Do you. Focus on your lane.

God does not always give you what you want. Believe me- it is for your own good.

If you want peace, prepare for storms. If you want patience, prepare for testing people and situationships. When you are not getting what you want, go back to your expectations and be realistic. Good virtues are built and the faster you grab them, the sooner they can work with you. If you keep failing on living with certain virtues, you keep going round and round the block- disappointed.

Waking up at 2AM in this mood is reason to shake it up Image: Ketut Subiyanto/Pexels.com

7. Be grateful. Learn gratitude. Look always for reasons to be grateful.

8. Not every energy is welcome. The sooner you stop entertaining toxic energy, the more positive you feel.

9. Believe in YOU. Believe in you strongly enough to let go of ANYthing and ANYone. Tolerance is a great trait. Tolerance is no reason however to expand for more bullshit because you are afraid to cut people out. You keep doing yourself a disservice. For me: I am good all by myself. I am enough all by myself. Cutting you out may hurt right now but I can’t keep you and after every cycle of you, I hate myself. Nahh, I’m good with me no matter who you are and what you can give me.

11. If someone hurts you and you want out, mourn and move on. Stop sitting around for closure. Stop sitting around waiting for people to realize they hurt you. Some know and don’t care. Some hurt you because it benefited them. Say as needed, “God saw it. I believe it will be equalized. My best days are ahead and I will keep it moving”.

12. So long as I am alive and willing to fight for all I desire, short term, you may delay my plans but long term, you will be irrelevant as you will never be the reason I don’t end up good.

Thank you for reading.

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