10 Tiny Sex Hacks Men Ignore
No, you don’t need to last longer.
When men discuss sex in the media, it’s always about lasting longer. And how they want to switch between several positions in one session. But is that what women want?
Your pride doesn’t serve well for a woman’s orgasm. Imagine a woman faking pleasure for ten years. DJ Envy’s wife, Gia Casey, did this. She saw him trying so hard and gave him a performative reward for his efforts.
Faking it doesn’t make up for the impact of learning the truth. If your woman fakes her orgasms well, you may never know. That’s until you are sitting in therapy to save your relationship.
Before the above happens, the following are tiny sex acts to improve your bedroom skills. Plus, get genuine excitement from your woman.
#1. Lower your extremes.
Most women don’t like rough sex.
The most popular genres of porn are gentle. Lesbian, porn for women, MILF, and stepmom don’t have heavy BDSM.
If you’re lucky to find a woman who likes excessive roughness, go all the way. Otherwise, choke, bite, and lick with low-to-moderate pressure.
Porn does excessive roughness because extremes get viewers more excited. It creates a more visual show — deep red marks, louder screams, and exaggerated responses.
Do a steady build-up from light to moderate intensity.
#2. Fingers like scissors
Having your finger dig around her insides like shovels doesn’t excite women. Trim and clean your fingers.
The sight of dirty fingernails alone is a turnoff. The woman’s mind will race with thoughts of pH imbalance and internal scarring. How can she ever let her brain relax to enjoy the experience?
Harsh is never the way to go. Most sex toys are soft like a feathery tickler or textured like leather. Claws are too great a distraction from pleasure and complimentary pain. Invest in a toothpick and trim your nails.
#3. Sprinkle reality on your fantasies
In videos, the man usually flips the woman when she’s about to achieve her release. The content gives you the impression this is more exciting for her. But the woman in your bed is a woman, not a paid actor.
Women are complex. Most need time to adjust to change. Plus, the separation to change position causes her to lose skin contact. The arousal has to be rebuilt inside of her all over again.
Fight your urge to find a new sex pose when her back arches and legs shake. Kiss her, bite a nipple, make eye contact, or hold her through the spasms.
#4. Let a laugh escape you.
Women have several reasons to rebuild their confidence.
Weight gain, body image issues, childbirth, pregnancy, and hormonal imbalance around the period time — all affect a woman’s confidence. Her mood goes from high to low at all times.
If you crack air or fall off the bed, laugh.
Reduce the pressure to stay lustful and sexy.
#5. Listen.
In porn, men do as the director says.
There isn’t a production team in your bedroom. Use the woman’s moans and words as a guide. Practice watching how she responds to your fingering. You will have a better grasp of her instructions when on top.
#6. Communicate
Please don’t get wasted and think it will improve your sex life. Alcohol inhibits your ability to understand social cues.
- How can you focus on the woman’s moans or words?
- How will you realize the moments she needs your empathy?
- How do you avoid falling asleep?
If you are nervous, your lady friend might have similar feelings. And if she isn’t worried, let her guide the both of you to an enjoyable experience.
#7. Remember your purpose.
Porn directors study psychology.
They want their viewers to enjoy every second of the show. Ever notice how they go from nude to sex without foreplay? It’s deliberate. It reduces your need to fast forward to the action. So, you keep your hand on your boner and off the mouse.
Actual women want foreplay.
Add real people videos to your watch list for educational purposes. Your goal in your bedroom is to have you and your partner achieve bliss.
#8. Give yourself an easy win.
Rub the clit with gentle pressure. That’s it.
#9. Freshen up
Confidence is sexy.
Imagine finding an angle where you moan without bad breath hitting your lover in the face. Not so enjoyable, huh?
Remove odors. Cover up photos that feel like they are staring at you. Change the sheets if filled with food crumbs. Cleanse your bedroom of anything that belittles the fun.
#10. Say no.
Will her feeling get sure? But like you can honor her body and her no, she can respect yours. If you aren’t feeling it, say so.
You don’t want to lose the arousal midway or can’t get it up after foreplay. This memory hurts your ego and future lovemaking confidence. There will be other times to have bedroom fun.
Thank you for reading this post.
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