10 Giveaway Signs Of A Malignant Female Narcissist

Learn how to spot the “mean girl” before she creates drama in your life.

I know a woman who is very cruel, jealous, on the inside very insecure and self-absorbed. She is a narcissist. Often she acts like a spoiled little teenager, but she is a grown woman (overgrown some may say).

When people think of narcissists they often think of men, as female narcissists are frequently overlooked. Well, they should not be — as they are very dangerous.

This woman (like other narcissists) is a mean girl which never grew out of her shitty behaviours — she gossips, excludes people, destroys relationships and threatens. She tends to hide behind the facade of a “victim”. Because then no one will think that she can actually be very vindictive, menacing, and ruthless.

The truth is — these women are very dangerous and all of them exhibit similar behaviours which help us decipher the narcissist among the crowd. Here are the main 10 signs that expose a female narcissist.

They project their own issues onto others

A clear sign that you are dealing with a narcissistic woman is that you will be subjected to her projections. A self-absorbed woman will accuse someone else of doing what they are doing or will call out their flaws and fears in someone else.

A narcissist is on the constant lookout for threats and when they see something that could potentially expose their weakness, they quickly blame other people for their own deficits. Usually, someone who cheats would accuse you of being a cheater. Or perhaps someone who is delusional or has serious mental health problems will go to great lengths to accuse you of having problems and so on.

Unfortunately, it's a defence mechanism for them and they can't help it as they are sick so they will keep on accusing you of what they are doing or feeling.

They are happy when other people are suffering.

Female narcissists gain pleasure when they bring other people down. This woman will often make jabs at people to simply hurt them because she has no empathy. They are very miserable people so they tend to cause more misery around them as that’s how they are used to surviving — in misery.

They are double if not triple-faced people. I’ve been often complimented by certain people for my amazing efforts, but then I’ve found out that the same people who were so nice were actually the ones who were spreading gossip and lies behind my back. So childish, right?

Yes, narcissistic people act as if they are still in 5th grade — and they are emotionally 5th graders. I’ve come to realize that jealousy is a trait of low intelligent people who exhibit narcissism traits. Therefore, it’s not their fault, unfortunately, their minds are somewhat restricted.

Female narcissists are often envious of others.

She is often envious, even though she appears to be very confident. She looks for opportunities to undercut other people. The narcissist may also result in copying you.

Have you been lately to an amazing spa? Don’t be shocked when next time you see the narcissists going to the same place, or doing the same thing as you have done — they can't do better — so they copy.

Because they are trying to be just like you.

They may imitate the way you talk, what you do, copy your plans, activities and efforts in order to feel better about themselves. They may try to keep up this fake mask for some time, but eventually, they will give up because it will be too much of an effort for them to try and imitate your success.

I’ve come to realize that they are just sick and obsessed with you. It is most likely that they don’t like you or the things they copy from you, but they just can’t help it.

A female narcissist has no empathy.

I've come to the conclusion that a female narcissist is very stubborn. She is unwilling to try to understand what other people are feeling and has no remorse for making someone feel bad in any way.

She never attempts to put herself in another person’s shoes because her perspective is the only one that matters. But she will play pretend that she is so emphatic and you will often see her put a show — cry and manipulate others so they believe that she is emphatic when she is not.

A female narcissist loves to manipulate.

Manipulation is fun for narcissists, and female narcissists are masters at using passive-aggressive behaviours to hurt you. You will be harassed by them, then they will disappear for some time, then come back again or they will use other people to get back at you. It’s how they have “learned” to get what they want — attention.

A female narcissist lives in denial.

Female narcissists will never admit to their manipulative and toxic behaviour. If you ever try to present some clear signs of narcissism, she will outright deny it. She will start blaming you for your previous mistakes and focus on your negatives. She will even accuse you that she has become a narcissist because of you.

Crazy, right?

She rarely takes responsibility for her actions.

Narcissistic women like to deflect attention to avoid the blame with lying, cheating, and everything in-between. They will make up complex excuses and absurd excuses for anything. She is unable to distinguish the boundary between responsibility and blame, narcissists attempt to avoid both.

She wishes to control everyone around her.

The narcissist tends to control you while remaining completely disinterested in the other aspects of your life. She gets you in such a state where you can feel like you can't move or do something without asking for permission.

She may frequently control a partner by monitoring your whereabouts at all times, criticising you and being in control of all important decisions, without ever asking your opinion about things.

She goes nuts when you break up with her…

One thing I’ve seen is that as soon as a person decides to leave, a narcissist will try much harder to keep you in their life. But soon enough, they will go back to their old ways. They are like leeches, changing partners, moving houses finding people to use so they can “support” their toxic narcissistic behaviour.

… and then she comes back!

If you insist that you’re done with the relationship, they’ll make it their goal to hurt you. They will threaten suicide, go nuts and they will never forget because their ego is so severely bruised that it causes them to feel rage and hatred for anyone who ‘wronged’ them. That’s because everything is everyone else’s fault.

What will they do next? They might bad-mouth you to save face. They may harass you, they may threaten you, but they will always lurk around you waiting for an opportunity to hurt you.

They are a very crazy bunch that feeds on misery, attention and drama, as soon as you cut them off — they will do all in their power to bring your attention somehow back to them. Don’t give in — move on.

Now when you’ve figured out the narcissist in your life — cut them off once and for all (and multiple times if needed)as quickly as you can and live your life to the fullest without the narc!

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