1 Simple Technique To Heal Your Inner-Child

listen to what your inner-child has to say and you will be transformed

If you ever feel left out or abandoned when a friend calls to cancel your dinner because something came up, know that it is your inner-child who feels left out or abandoned.

If you ever feel lonely even though you’re in a room full of people, know that your inner-child feels lonely.

If you’re scared and avoid people who want to get closer to you and love you, know that your inner-child feels scared.

We were all children once.

Many of us had a wonderful childhood. Many of us not so much.

And although we don’t vividly remember much of our childhood, we surely lived it.

Inner-child work may sound quite woo-woo to many people. But the truth is everyone living on this planet needs it.

Many need it badly.

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, “Your inner-child is the part of your personality that still reacts and feels like a child.”

All traumas, insecurities, doubts, feelings of distrust, anger, fear, and others come from our childhood. Allow me to repeat:

It all comes from our childhood.

The problem is we carry these traumas into our adult life. You mainly think that “this is the way I am,” but it’s not that simple. You are the result of countless memories and experiences you have carried since birth. Why? Because these are the things that shaped who you are, your thoughts, your beliefs, your habits, your personality — You.

Personal example: my dad hid his cancer when I was 17, and he died shortly after my mother and I found out. After my dad had passed away, my mom neglected me emotionally and mistreated me until I left.

Now, I know that my dad didn’t want to die. He just didn’t want to be a burden to my mom and me. And my mom was in deep pain; she just didn’t know what to do. She did the best she could at that time.

But for years, I didn’t know this. I felt lonely, abandoned, left behind, not good enough, and unlovable. Like some invisible force was always next to me saying — “You Are A Zero”.

Until I found out how to heal my inner-child (even though I was 17, it doesn’t really matter).

It is simple to heal your inner-child

You just have to repeat the process every time it’s needed. Until eventually, those traumas won’t bother you anymore.

Every time you feel emotions like anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, rancor, distrust, bitterness, frustration, resentment, guilt, despair, loneliness, disappointment, boredom.

Ask yourself:

"Why am I feeling this way?"

When I asked myself this question, I always found the same pattern of answers. It would be one or more of these:

Because I am lonely;

Because I don’t belong;

Because I am not good enough; or

Because I am not lovable.

When you reach your answer, ask again:

"When was the first time I felt this in my life?"

For several times after asking myself this question, I would see myself crying in my room at my mother’s house, craving for her love, wishing that she cared about me.

So I chose to live all those memories again and allow myself to feel that pain. Only this time, I would deliver my pain what it needed the most — my full attention, love, and support.

I would imagine my little-self in that memory, approach her, and mentally hold her in my arms. I would tell her:

— “Hey, it’s okay to feel like that. Don’t worry, I am here for you. I care about you. I love you.”

I repeated this technique countless times, every time I felt (and believed) I wasn’t loved, worthy, or any feeling that would bring me down. I did it enough times until my inner-child would feel safe and loved.

And she really did. I know that because now I feel it as well.

That’s how you know.

It’s not easy but be patient. You have to get through your pain to conquer it. Going around it / escaping it / trying not to think about it won’t make any difference. The pain only comes back again, and again, and again. Until you listen to what it has to say.

So do yourself a huge favor and heal your inner-child.

He’s / She’s waiting for you.

Don’t hesitate to contact me if you have any questions. I’m happy to help you in anything I can.

Good luck. 🌞

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